We were having one of those “What am I doing with my life,” mid-twenties kind of conversations.
If you are lucky enough to have people with shared life experiences, I think it’s not only important, but crucial to take the time to hash out your ideas with them- to pull your lives apart, to dissect them and to try your best to put it all back together again in a somewhat less-elusive type of way.
And if that doesn’t work, go get some tequila and start dancing. That always does.
She said, “I don’t know where I want to be. I don’t know where I’m headed. I want to be happier.”
“Don’t we all.” I said.
There was a pause, and she replied, “You know what movie you would love?”
“Hector and the Search for Happiness.”
“Never seen it.”
I watched the film last night. Despite my normal tendency to fall asleep with every film I start after 7 PM, this one kept me hooked. I finished the whole thing and stayed up for an hour reflecting and looking up quotes from the film. One article in particular said it perfectly. In the Huff Post blog by Peter Chelsom, (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/peter-chelsom-/the-happiness-of-pursuit_b_5824184.html) he states:
The film’s main conclusion is that the emotion of happiness cannot really be separated. Real happiness is richness. And richness is the full spectrum of all the colors, all the emotions. Yes, we need to embrace it all if we are to stand a chance at being happy.
I think the film is also addressing the fact that life is not as successful when you spend it searching endlessly for happiness. Instead it’s fuller when you take the time to have experiences, to take risks, to listen to your intuition, to make mistakes, and to allow yourself to grow because of it all. In other words, happiness is about living life in all it’s hardship and in all it’s wonder.
I just turned 26 this month. I am soon ending my year abroad and returning home. I am in a transition that is a result of my long desire to find, in my own personal way, what it is that defines this all-elusive term. So when I heard the following line from the film, it hit me like a profound, simplistic ton of bricks:
We should concern ourselves not so much with the pursuit of happiness, but more with the happiness of pursuit.
Et voilà, there you have it. Maybe happiness isn’t one attainable tangible goal, but a fluid, organic thing that happens when you are not thinking about it. When you are living life in the truest, most authentic way possible.
Cheers to turning 26, to a year older, to another year of experience, to being closer to 30 than 20, but to still being able to cling to that mid- twenties identity.
…To the happiness of the pursuit. ❤